I can only answer that with this statement: I may never conceive, I may never feel a baby kick, I may never experience the joy of seeing and hearing my baby's heartbeat on a sonogram. I may never get to say oh he has Kevin's eyes or experience labor.
I do not have control over those things. I must tell you that I most certainly want a newborn baby because I want to be there for all of my child's firsts. I want to hear their first word, see their first step and kiss their first boo boo.
I apologize to those who feel that makes me selfish but my desire to be a mother encompasses from day one on. I am missing a lot already and I don't want to give up the earliest part of my children's lives.
There may come a time when after we have adopted and our kids are older we will consider adopting an older child, but for now a newborn baby is our dream.
I feel like those who have not experienced the hurt and emptiness of infertility can not comprehend the way you feel cheated and robbed of something you feel is your God-given right.
So we may face opposition and negativity from those who should support us it may dampen our spirits slightly. Nonetheless we shall stay the course and embark on this life altering journey to parenthood.
We understand people have opinions and in no way are we stating we are upset by them. We just want to make a blanket statement to express our feelings on the matter and why we have made the decisions we have.
Trust me adoption is not for the weak of heart and we still don't entirely know where all of this $30,000 is coming from but I do know this, where God guides, He provides. (Thank you Sandy Kaminsky for that quote it has been the underlying theme of this adoption process so far.)
Thank you all for you love and support. This is the most important thing we have done aside from our salvation and getting married. It's HUGE! We are so excited and so scared all at once
Love,
Shannon
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It is amazing how people feel that your struggles to have children are open to debate and outside opinion. Trust me, I'm in the same boat. I know it is all coming from a good place, but if one more person tells me to just relax and it will happen...well I will smile politely and thank them for their input because I don't want to be rude. :) I think what you guys are doing is very brave and I can't wait to see you acheive your dreams.
ReplyDeleteTrust me Heather I have heard it all.I can tell you it gets harder to be polite at times but I know people mean well they just may not understand. I am taking a huge leap of faith because I am ready finally, it's not something you take lightly its a big deal so I want to treat it as such. I hope we can adopt at least 2 one girl and one boy. But for now we will start with trying to survive one adoption process!!
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